meeting - but afraid she wont show up on the meeting place

[pieter]

I have meet an nice girl on the internet, she lives in Kazakhstan and I in the Netherlands. We talked for a month or 2 almost each night and things where going perfect. I started to have strong feelings for her, and she also said the she had strong feeling for me. Off course you have to be careful with that, but I truly think she was talking the truth about the feelings. Otherwise I am mistaking bad…

So after the 2 month’s we decided to meet in Turkey. At first she was telling that she was going to London for the company she was working for at the end of September, but it was not sure yet. So we could meet there. The suddenly that was of the table and we where planning an holliday in turkey.

I understand that it is very expensive for her to travel to an other country, so was willing to help her a bit. Untill one evening, she said that she needed to borrow money for the trip and asked a friend for it. She also told me the guy she was going to ask had strong feelings for her, was in love with here and gave her flowers, that he had a good job and lots of money and things like that. And that she called him so they could meet and told me that they where going out and she could come back late in the night back.
Don’t get me wrong… I very much appreciate that she is doing her best to see me, but I don’t have a clue what she said things like that. And leaving that behind us, out of no where she told me that she brought the tickets. Which is great, but because of some conversations (she said maybe she has still to go to Londen in the same week as our holiday and she could not tell what she was going to do when that happends) we had there is some doubt in me if she really brought the tickets, and afraid that I am going to Turkey and she is not coming.

Don’t get me wrong… I really love her! And think she also got feeling for me, but because of lots of bad experience I am a bit suspicious and would be hard for me to handle if I am going to Turkey and she wont be there.

What I am trying to ask, did anyone ever had such an experience also? That you where meeting and the other one was not showing up?

Or any tips how I can be sure of it she brought the tickets?

[Anna Banana]

Very strange that girl worked for company which sent her to London but in the same time she had to borrow money for holliday in Turkie, one of that must be lie ;) Well all this fine but why did not you pay for her tickets if there is love?:rolleyes:

[jimsan]

She is scammer or game player but that is just my opinion.

If someone really loves you they will do anything to be with you, no excuses.

:)

[LadySS]

[QUOTE=pieter;159369

What I am trying to ask, did anyone ever had such an experience also? That you where meeting and the other one was not showing up?

Or any tips how I can be sure of it she brought the tickets?[/QUOTE]




It's a pretty easy to check. Just ask her to send you scanner copies of tickets and offer her to pay fully. After that simply look what will.:becky: Otherwise ask her about everything what you ask us here.
But generally on this question too hard to give clear advise. You must feel what you need and what you want exactly. Love all time is going hand by hand with risk , especially if this love arised in a Internet.
if be honestly it seems like scammer, but who know?:confused:

[pieter]

Thanks for the reactions...

I have been also thinking that (scammer). But what could be the reason for saying she brought a ticket and let me but an ticket and go to Turkey for nothing? It does not make sense to me.

[jimsan]

Do not try to make sense of it, just use your common sense.

It's hard to be practical when you have strong feelings about someone but you must force yourself to stand back and look at the bigger picture.

I have encountered many game players, people who do not seem to be scamming but simply enjoying the games they play with your feelings and emotions.

It makes no sense to me either but there are such people and that's a fact.

:mad:

[jimsan]

If it was me I would NEVER send any money but offer to reimburse her when you are together.

[LadySS]

But what could be the reason for saying she brought a ticket and let me but an ticket and go to Turkey for nothing? It does not make sense to me.

Perhaps for you it seems like nonsence but for her - likely she wants to check your reaction or expects something else :)

[pieter]

Perhaps for you it seems like nonsence but for her - likely she wants to check your reaction or expects something else :)

oke please help me on this... what could she be expecting? And what could be an reason? And do you think she did brought the tickets or not?

[LadySS]

:)oke please help me on this... what could she be expecting? And what could be an reason? And do you think she did brought the tickets or not?

Unfortunately or fortunately I am not able to look inside the mind of people:)
I completely agree with opinion of jimsan.
Simply ask her to give you explanations of all your worries, I'm sure if she really love you she will give sincere answers.

I can only wish you all the best:)

[pieter]

thanks for the replay's!

I should take a look at it with a clear mind and not let my feelings take control. But I dont understand when you talking to someone (chatting / phone / webcam) for more then 2 month's she is that mysterious about seeing each other with the possibility that she wont show up on our meeting/holiday...

[pieter]

things are getting more complicated now...

she have send me an copy of her ticket! But we planned the holiday fro 25 september til 1 october! But the ticket says 25 august til 1 september!

I asked her, how can that be? And she responded within 2 minutes time:

We just noticed it!! I am shocked!!

Oh my god!

what to do?

They do not have for september! And I can not change it


aargghhhhhh, whats this again? I am getting crazy!!

[Anna Banana]

what' a crap!!!!:rolleyes:

[Mnguy2007]

I have meet an nice girl on the internet, she lives in Kazakhstan and I in the Netherlands. We talked for a month or 2 almost each night and things where going perfect. I started to have strong feelings for her, and she also said the she had strong feeling for me. Off course you have to be careful with that, but I truly think she was talking the truth about the feelings. Otherwise I am mistaking bad…

So after the 2 month’s we decided to meet in Turkey. At first she was telling that she was going to London for the company she was working for at the end of September, but it was not sure yet. So we could meet there. The suddenly that was of the table and we where planning an holliday in turkey.

I understand that it is very expensive for her to travel to an other country, so was willing to help her a bit. Untill one evening, she said that she needed to borrow money for the trip and asked a friend for it. She also told me the guy she was going to ask had strong feelings for her, was in love with here and gave her flowers, that he had a good job and lots of money and things like that. And that she called him so they could meet and told me that they where going out and she could come back late in the night back.
Don’t get me wrong… I very much appreciate that she is doing her best to see me, but I don’t have a clue what she said things like that. And leaving that behind us, out of no where she told me that she brought the tickets. Which is great, but because of some conversations (she said maybe she has still to go to Londen in the same week as our holiday and she could not tell what she was going to do when that happends) we had there is some doubt in me if she really brought the tickets, and afraid that I am going to Turkey and she is not coming.

Don’t get me wrong… I really love her! And think she also got feeling for me, but because of lots of bad experience I am a bit suspicious and would be hard for me to handle if I am going to Turkey and she wont be there.

What I am trying to ask, did anyone ever had such an experience also? That you where meeting and the other one was not showing up?

Or any tips how I can be sure of it she brought the tickets?


pieter,
I will start with saying that you really don't give enough information for anyone to form a solid opinion of either of you.
Based on what I am reading however a question pops up right away.

Why aren't you going to her city to visit her for the first visit?

There are many reasons that would be important but the main one is you are the man and I would think you would want your first meeting with her to be in her comfort zone.
Where she can feel the most relaxed and safe. You can also learn much more about her
and her daily life if you visit were she lives it.

The second question and what would throw up a big red flag for me is how you say she planned to borrow money to go visit you.
If you are correct with what you wrote all you have to do is break this down and it should
raise many serious question for you.

"she said that she needed to borrow money for the trip and asked a friend for it. She also told me the guy she was going to ask had strong feelings for her, was in love with here and gave her flowers, that he had a good job and lots of money and things like that. And that she called him so they could meet and told me that they where going out and she could come back late in the night back."

First question is if she is suppose to be in love with you why would she go to another man that is in love with her to ask for money to visit you?

Is she using that man's love to get his money to visit another man and if he knew what she was going to use that money for would he give it to her?

If her intent was simply to borrow money from this man would she really need to go out and come back late at night?
If I was going to guess at what that is saying I would say it does not paint a very good picture.

In a newer post you talk about her tickets that have expired dates on them.
As far as I know tickets are printed from a computer and would not make that kind of mistake.

I am not going to label her or you in this but I will say that if you take your role as a man and let common your common sense guide you then you will see much more clearly which way to proceed.

[alenika]

Strange situation, yes.

[sparkle]

things are getting more complicated now...

she have send me an copy of her ticket! But we planned the holiday fro 25 september til 1 october! But the ticket says 25 august til 1 september!

I asked her, how can that be? And she responded within 2 minutes time:

We just noticed it!! I am shocked!!

Oh my god!

what to do?

They do not have for september! And I can not change it


aargghhhhhh, whats this again? I am getting crazy!!

I did the same sort of thing once. I booked to Budapest, I was going to Bucharest.
The family I went to visit, told me the mistake. I phoned the airline to change destination, (for you, it is date) cost me £250.00 quid that mistake :confused::lol:

[sparkle]

[QUOTE=Mnguy2007;159404]pieter,
I will start with saying that you really don't give enough information for anyone to form a solid opinion of either of you.
Based on what I am reading however a question pops up right away.

Why aren't you going to her city to visit her for the first visit?

There are many reasons that would be important but the main one is you are the man and I would think you would want your first meeting with her to be in her comfort zone.
Where she can feel the most relaxed and safe. You can also learn much more about her
and her daily life if you visit were she lives it.

Not to mention the great holiday you will have. You will see the REAL country with a friend, not just the tourist bits, and, you will make more friends while you are there :becky::peace:

[Koshka]

pieter,
I will start with saying that you really don't give enough information for anyone to form a solid opinion of either of you.
Based on what I am reading however a question pops up right away.

Why aren't you going to her city to visit her for the first visit?

There are many reasons that would be important but the main one is you are the man and I would think you would want your first meeting with her to be in her comfort zone.
Where she can feel the most relaxed and safe. You can also learn much more about her
and her daily life if you visit were she lives it.

:der:

i know many women who would prefer Turkey for first meeting with unknown man ;) :p

[Koshka]

Or any tips how I can be sure of it she brought the tickets?

That to be sure in future make like other men -- buy ticket for girl in the internet and send her electronic ticket ;)

[foxy00]

always be very aware when a girl starts to ask you for money because she cannot aford to travel. I beleve the travel to turkey is not very expensive (or am I wrong)?
other traps to be aware is the story about a sick child or relative and needing money for that.
If you ever decide to fund a girls travel, buy the ticket dont send the money, as this way she cannot cash it in.
final thought, can you really love someone you have never met? or is it infatuation?

[yankee]

always be very aware when a girl starts to ask you for money because she cannot aford to travel. I beleve the travel to turkey is not very expensive (or am I wrong)?
other traps to be aware is the story about a sick child or relative and needing money for that.
If you ever decide to fund a girls travel, buy the ticket dont send the money, as this way she cannot cash it in.
final thought, can you really love someone you have never met? or is it infatuation?

Foxy, I met my wife in Rome, she paid for the transportation to and from Moscow (1600 km round trip) and I paid for tickets to and from Rome. My wife only made $300 a month so you figure out how expensive it was. Please note that my wife was a department head in a state university.

[foxy00]

mnguy2007, you are one of the lucky ones. It is a sad fact that for nearly every good story there is a bad one as well.

[Shadow-off]

Did she show up ?

[pieter]

Did she show up ?

yea, she showed up, and we had a great holiday! Guess woman all around the world are the same, most of the times impossible to understand! ;) :)

[slkas]

Women are like phones:
They like to be held, talked to, and touched often.
But push the wrong button and your ass is disconnected.

[Ladine]

Pieter - What you think ??????????????? It Play 100%!!!! HA HA HA... :o

[Hansik]

Looking for young sexy girls from ukraine/Belarus.Agespam 18-40.
Must talk Eneglish and willing to travel in Europe with me.Special to Italy,Spain and France and aslo to my home country SWEDEN.
[I] will take care of our financial situation.I like to spoil the right girl.
I like opera,classical music,operett,reading serious books from Nobelprizers.
I defenetely wants to have a strict dicipline.My coming must be the boss in our home.
Mr.Hans from Stockholm
I have properties in Italy to.
You must bve able to communicate in English so we could talk to each other.:whatever_02:

[Sveta's Hero]

:biggrin::biggrin::biggrin::biggrin:

[alenika]

You must bve able to communicate in English so we could talk to each other.:whatever_02: Why to talk?? You has too high requirements to the right girl :scratch_one-s_head:

[Sveta's Hero]

Looking for young sexy girls from ukraine/Belarus.Agespam 18-40.
Must talk Eneglish and willing to travel in Europe with me.Special to Italy,Spain and France and aslo to my home country SWEDEN.
[I] will take care of our financial situation.I like to spoil the right girl.
I like opera,classical music,operett,reading serious books from Nobelprizers.
I defenetely wants to have a strict dicipline.My coming must be the boss in our home.
Mr.Hans from Stockholm
I have properties in Italy to.
You must bve able to communicate in English so we could talk to each other.:whatever_02:

Mr. Hans, you and your young wife are swingers?:biggrin:
http://www.gogabber.com/showpost.php?p=144751&postcount=57

[Ladine]

be free of charge housekeeper, we can and with his men. With these requirements are and we have good men. You first Hansik show what you can :dirol:...:bb:
If I know enough English, I will be able to come to any country, why are you going to need me then? so even with such requirements ...

[Ladine]

how men are afraid of difficulties .... I only know One unit of men who are worthy of respect .. who are not afraid to take Responsibility. sorry ....

[Sarah]

Looking for young sexy girls from ukraine/Belarus.Agespam 18-40.
Must talk Eneglish and willing to travel in Europe with me.Special to Italy,Spain and France and aslo to my home country SWEDEN.
[I] will take care of our financial situation.I like to spoil the right girl.
I like opera,classical music,operett,reading serious books from Nobelprizers.
I defenetely wants to have a strict dicipline.My coming must be the boss in our home.
Mr.Hans from Stockholm
I have properties in Italy to.
You must bve able to communicate in English so we could talk to each other.:whatever_02:

And two kilos of potatoes!

[Voobrazheniye]

Looking for young sexy girls from ukraine/Belarus.Agespam 18-40.
Must talk Eneglish and willing to travel in Europe with me.Special to Italy,Spain and France and aslo to my home country SWEDEN.
[I] will take care of our financial situation.I like to spoil the right girl.
I like opera,classical music,operett,reading serious books from Nobelprizers.
I defenetely wants to have a strict dicipline.My coming must be the boss in our home.
Mr.Hans from Stockholm
I have properties in Italy to.
You must bve able to communicate in English so we could talk to each other.:whatever_02:

Hmmm... at first I thought this was offered tongue-in-cheek (as a joke). But after seeing the link Paul posted, I'm not sure. Either we have a real joker here who likes to stir up a little controversy, or someone who actually means this stuff - which is even funnier.

[brown-raider]

Hmmm... at first I thought this was offered tongue-in-cheek (as a joke). But after seeing the link Paul posted, I'm not sure. Either we have a real joker here who likes to stir up a little controversy, or someone who actually means this stuff - which is even funnier.this guy is quite the charmer, I wonder how many girls would line up to kick his butt, better.....:laugh1:

[Sveta's Hero]

this guy is quite the charmer, I wonder how many girls would line up to kick his butt, better.....:laugh1:

Or how many would secretly contact him:laugh1:

I do think he'd have an easier time at LL, though.

[brown-raider]

Or how many would secretly contact him:laugh1:

I do think he'd have an easier time at LL, though.:shout: aha ha ha haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa :shout: never thought about that, well it takes all kinds huh????:laugh1::shout::laugh1:

[Sarah]

Actually, I feel it is a big prank made up by a funny person, who decided to shake us up a little. It think it deserves a Thanks!

[Sveta's Hero]

Actually, I feel it is a big prank made up by a funny person, who decided to shake us up a little. It think it deserves a Thanks!

I agree, that's why I thanked him right when I read it. I got a good laugh from it:biggrin:

[Sarah]

In February this year he asked us -

"I am going to Black Sea/Yalta. Is it easy to find girls there?? Any suggestions.
H"

Nobody told him that it is not just difficult, but impossible! So we will have him coming back again and again, until somebody gives him the right answer! He has already agreed to read the Nobel-prize books! What else a man can do to attract a Ukrainian or Belorussian girl?

[Beemer]

Looking for young sexy girls from ukraine/Belarus.Agespam 18-40.
Must talk Eneglish and willing to travel in Europe with me.Special to Italy,Spain and France and aslo to my home country SWEDEN.
[I] will take care of our financial situation.I like to spoil the right girl.
I like opera,classical music,operett,reading serious books from Nobelprizers.
I defenetely wants to have a strict dicipline.My coming must be the boss in our home.
Mr.Hans from Stockholm
I have properties in Italy to.
You must bve able to communicate in English so we could talk to each other.:whatever_02:

I wonder if anyone would like to set up a spoof profile and ask for things so outrageous only a scammer/free holiday user would say yes!

Any suggestions what to put in?

[Taiss]

I have meet an nice girl on the internet...
pieter...
Any person lives somewhere among people.
So you can try making inquires about her from someone who is closer to her than you.
Anyone who speak Russian can help you surfing the net with her personal information. It is not difficult at all.

[Taiss]

oh, sorry:0 did not notice the date of the message.

[Beemer]

". And that she called him so they could meet and told me that they where going out and she could come back late in the night back."

At that point. My trust, (and conversation) with her would of ended.

Glad you also gained satisfaction Pieter. Meeting her again?

[Taiss]

I wonder if anyone would like to set up a spoof profile and ask for things so outrageous only a scammer/free holiday user would say yes!

Any suggestions what to put in?

O tempere, o mores!
:)

[disc999golfer999]

Did you do a background check on her? http://www.russianscamcheck.org/
They will verify her home address and identity on her government issued passport.

Also go to:
http://www.womenrussia.com/blacklist_summary.htm
http://www.russianwomenblacklist.com/
http://www.anti-scam.org/
Plus there are many other ways to see if she has been reported for scamming.

Did you do your homework?

[Beemer]

O tempere, o mores!
:):Elffy_24:

No self respecting lady would take hansiks profile seriously. Unless she was going to take FROM the man. Instead of sharing and giving.

He thinks he has a nice lure to catch a lovely beauty. But he has bait with no hook. :Koshechka_08:

[Taiss]

:Elffy_24:

No self respecting lady would take hansiks profile seriously. Unless she was going to take FROM the man. Instead of sharing and giving.

Right.:connie_18:

He thinks he has a nice lure to catch a lovely beauty. But he has bait with no hook. :Koshechka_08:

:tatice_03:

[Ms.Lora]

Don’t get me wrong… I really love her! And think she also got feeling for me, but because of lots of bad experience I am a bit suspicious and would be hard for me to handle if I am going to Turkey and she wont be there.


don't behaive as a spineless creature... go to her city and meet her !

[herry]

would 20 or even more users thanked me, as well as they did for others, if i wrote something here?:scratch_one-s_head:
i even don't need to know your names, guys, you can just do it!:Laie_98::biggrin:

[Gabber]

Looking for young sexy girls from ukraine/Belarus.Agespam 18-40.
Must talk Eneglish and willing to travel in Europe with me.Special to Italy,Spain and France and aslo to my home country SWEDEN.
[I] will take care of our financial situation.I like to spoil the right girl.
I like opera,classical music,operett,reading serious books from Nobelprizers.
I defenetely wants to have a strict dicipline.My coming must be the boss in our home.
Mr.Hans from Stockholm
I have properties in Italy to.
You must bve able to communicate in English so we could talk to each other.:whatever_02:

I take it then that your wife approves or will she be joining in?

[krevedko]

Posted: 08-20-2010
I have meet an nice girl on the internet, blah-blah-blah

Replied: Today, 01-09-2012
don't behaive as a spineless creature... go to her city and meet her !

I suggest you look at the date of the original post prior to succumbing to necroposting. For god's sake, the person who asked the question might be dead already and you are giving him dating advice! This is highly inappropriate and insensitive, don't you think?

:biggrin::biggrin:

[MEGAZORRO]

PEETER

HOE IS DE SITUATIE NU,

[herry]

Zorro, i really doubt that you will ever get the answer to your question, because Pieter had never logged in GG after he posted this tread.

[MEGAZORRO]

I KNOW PITTY FOR MY FELLOW NEIGHBOURS BUT MEN FROM THE NETHERLANDS ARE VERY PLAYFULL ON LL