Young Men Suffer More Pain Than Women in Relationship

[Veronica]

A study suggests that the quality of a relationship affects young men more than their romantic counterparts, the Toronto Sun reported.

Robin Simon, a Wake Forest University professor of sociology, conducted a study of over 1,000 unmarried men and women between the ages of 18 and 23.

The results found that men feel the effects of their relationship’s highs and lows more than women, challenging the commonly held gender stereotypes. Men experienced both greater emotional benefits when they were happy in their romance and greater stress when they were unhappy. Simon also suggested that a young man’s sense of self worth can be hurt if his relationship is poor.

A possible reason is that a young man’s romantic partner is often their primary source of intimacy, while women are more likely to have close relationships with family and friends, Simon said, FOX News reports.

Prof Simon said, was that men and women express emotional distress in different ways.

"Women express emotional distress with depression, while men express emotional distress with substance problems."

The researchers also found that while young men are more affected by the quality of a current relationship, young women are more emotionally affected by whether or not they are in a relationship.

[Shadow-off]

I find this to be true. I think it affects both sexes even though it may, as the study postulates affect younger men. Never the less these things are not happy experiences for either gender.
Look at a persons life for a moment and analyze it in regard to this. Entering into a marriage influences and requires a number of big modifications in the lives of each person in the couple.
The gates of the field suddenly close in regard to potential boyfriends or girlfriends in respect to intimacy. Each person in a married couple has accepted and also sacrificed this option in life for the sake of a marriage and each other. They are now the best of the best for each other once they are married as they made the choice. Making the choice closed this previously active part of their life and as long as they remain married those gates should virtuously remain shut. :) Unfortunately and statistically they may be periodically opened without the other partners knowledge in an adulterous fashion. So this initial sacrifice is made based on love and trust for each person in the couple. When this is defiled or broken and a marriage ends in divorce a number of very stressful, hurtful and angering things happen:

Time: Every person has a life and none of us know when this life we have been given will end. So any waste of life is critical and detrimental. For younger couples this may not be as injurious as for someone that is older when divorce or separation happens. Younger people in their 20's feel immortal to some extent or at least more so than an older person would. The loss of time is directly proportional to loss of life in respect to time wasted. It is also related to how a person sees the experience of time loss because of divorce or a broken relationship.
Personally, I like to plan what I do, and if means provide, anything I do, is failure and loss, if what I intended or depended on happening, or completing, doesn't or isn't accomplished. If you can understand.
Another person, might see not completing something as a learning experience, where some joys and sorrows were experienced during the process, but no loss of time or life is thought of as loss.

Emotionally you can lose a lot and to the point in some cases where you become clinically ill from divorce, broken relationships, and or associated other losses such as financial loss or separation of children. These are big stresses by definition psychologically. Some people with an education in psychology like myself, can in a way, " Cheat the hangman" In other words and in worst case scenarios, statistically shown, some individuals can lose their mind and never return again. This doesn't happen in most cases and I think is influenced upon how deeply one of the two in a couple deeply loves and has trust and faith in the other. It is always easier for the person in a couple that has already met their replacement mate before their divorce is final. In my own case I attribute my own recovery from near death to be because of my education in psychology and my concern for the well-being of my step-daughter and wonderful dog. I am doing a lot better now and am experiencing happiness again. Other people could be completely uninfluenced by broken relationships or divorce. It is a danger associated with loving too deeply and trusting too deeply too.

Sometime it's a lot broader than to say "Oh well, I hurt this person; they'll get over it." People need to think about this more. When you marry someone you become one person and when you divorce you destroy potentially your other half.

[belano4ka]

I have a question...it's about Western mentality :)
Why is it worse to be divorced then to have numerous relationships with half of the town and be single? Is it because people afraid that you might want serious commitments and they just want to have fun?
Just curious...

[Lucker]

Bella ,
I have never heard anyone make that suggestion .
There is no stigma attached to Divorce , although people of my generation , in particular , wonder why so many people get married in the first place .
Also , your single person who has relationships with half the town's available people , is an imagined character .
Such people have flings and affairs but not relationships . And of course , whatever label you decide to put on them , it takes "two to Tango" .

[Shadow-off]

"I have a question...it's about Western mentality
Why is it worse to be divorced then to have numerous relationships with half of the town and be single? Is it because people afraid that you might want serious commitments and they just want to have fun?"

In you second sentence the word "then" complexes the question. If you meant to write "than" the question is changed. I'm really not picking on your English dear. I'm just trying to figure out what you're asking.

I am going to assume that you are asking:

Why is it worse to be divorced than to have numerous relationships with half of the town and be single?

In my opinion it is not worse to be divorced.

"to have numerous relationships with half of the town and be single?"
The moral majority and Bible belt mentality and religious either frown upon this or condemn it as taboo in religion. Outside of this other chains of thought. It is appropriate and acceptable to have numerous relationships and be single. Swingers, key clubbers, and most other single people fall into this category.

In the case of biblical scripture it warns us about fornication and premarital sex. However the Bible clearly defines marriage as a second resort if you are not able to remain celibate. To even lust for anyone of the opposite sex is a sin the bible. I'm just telling you what the book says here. It says other things that would upset women and people in our society today. This does not mean I am condeming anyone for anything they do; that's not my position. I am sinful too according to the book; who isn't. However the bible is not something that can be modified to fit the likes of the people and their practices.