dating younger men

[rainy-day]

I have a question for women. recently, a friend of mine met a guy, 8 years younger than her and she started dating him. she says he is very nice and funny and is not childish at all. he is supporting himself, he is paying his university by himself, he is working. so pretty mature she says.

the strange thing is that she never dated younger men before, only older men, and she is still dating him even she says she knows there is no future in that relationship. she is 31 and he is 23.

i'm wondering, even is not accepted by society as easy as younger woman older man combination would you girls date a younger man? why. what do you think about my crazy friend?

[Soulmate-Africa]

maybe he wans:becky:t a mature lady

[Koshka]

what do you think about my crazy friend?

I think she is not crazy :)

[rainy-day]

I think she is not crazy :)


i'm saying she's crazy because she is not 20 and she never been married, has no kids. she will want all these and because he's younger than her he doesn't need them. but who knows.....

and time passes away.............

[alenika]

I also don't think she is crazy. And this age difference is ok, she couldn't be his mom, she can give birth to their kids - if they move to this stage. And the fact she is older doesn't mean she is a lot more experienced. Experience don't depend on age. What I want to say, she is 31, she is not old, look good, is healthy.
I personally wouldn't prefer a man younger me, but in case if he is really responsible like grown up people, can protect the people he loves, then... I don't know what my decision would be. I wouldn't start this relationship for sure though if it would going to be mom-kid relationship type. But there are young guys who are really responsible, who are real men. I think that starting from 25 y.o. man should be a man already, not a boy. If he doesn't mature by this age, he'll never mature. The same about women.

I noticed tendency lately in forums when men in their 30's think they are very young and have all life ahead, and escape of responsibilities, they think they are gift for anyone. While woman in her 30 is considered as old. It's not funny, it's sad, when someone in 25-30 plays a kid.

[alenika]

i'm saying she's crazy because she is not 20 and she never been married, has no kids. she will want all these and because he's younger than her he doesn't need them. but who knows.....

and time passes away............. If their life attitudes and purposes differ then this is a valid reason to break I think. But this is not because of age.

[rainy-day]

you are right. I know a lot of guys who are their 30 or more then 30 and say they will not get marry and who are childish.
i think the good thing about my friend's guy is that he doesn't have a long relationship in his past, that traumatized him. so, he would be himself, and will not throw on her all his frustrations from the past. (as "mature" people are doing)

[Ingrid]

the strange thing is that she never dated younger men before, only older men, and she is still dating him even she says she knows there is no future in that relationship. she is 31 and he is 23.nothing strange in it.she just became mature enogh to realise that there is not any good point to date older men, and there is great possibility that her relationship will have an excellent future because age difference not really matter.

[bobbyd]

you should date whomever you please; younger, older...whatever. If it works - great - if it doesn't move on and learn from your experience. I personally believe that women should date tall Canadians but that's jsut my opinion.

[8bigwheels]

hi Alex, ive been thinking about same recently and one of my friend adviced me to watch this movie.

The Rebound. produced in 2009, with Katherine Zeta-Jones.

http://ia.media-imdb.com/images/M/MV5BMTYxOTQ5Njk3N15BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwMTgzODI3MQ@@._ V1._SX400_SY313_.jpg

Sandy(KZJ) upon discovering her husband's infidelity leaves the suburbs and moves to the city. She gets an apartment that's below a coffee house. She befriends one of the workers, Aram, a guy whose wife only married him so that she could get a green card. Aram's family thinks he's wasting his life and education by just working in a coffee house. Later Sandy hires Aram to be her babysitter when she starts a new job. It isn't long when they start dating.

i loved that movie, if you have free time watch it

[Koshka]

i'm saying she's crazy because she is not 20 and she never been married, has no kids. she will want all these and because he's younger than her he doesn't need them. but who knows.....

and time passes away.............

anybody has a right to make own mistakes
and nobody can know it is a mistake or a lucky chance
better live and make mistake . imo

[Shadow-off]

I am convinced that there are two things in life that are completely unrelated; Love and Money. I believe that there is a difference between feeling love for someone and being in love with them.
Think of all the monumentous and astounding things in History that were constructed because of the love and passion within a person that gave them the willpower, ambition and dedication to achieve such tasks. Think of the heroines and hero’s, that because of the love of humanity of people or animals, lost their lives trying to save someone or make some change for some person, cause or even for society.

Personally, love must be the foundation upon which all other things in life and with regard to building a relationship or marriage should be constructed upon. A strong foundation will make a strong house and a strong love between two people will help them continue loving each other and help them stay together if everything else in life fails and falls to pieces.

One of the biggest problems we have as a society is the tendency and practice to kill what is good for ourselves. To say that; an older person desiring to develop a relationship or a marriage with someone much younger is due to perverted lust; has some validity in some cases. However, in many cases though, the older person really and truly wants to devote their love to the younger person and sees them as an equal. In those cases and a majority of the time, sincere love is lost because of fear, stigma, or group norms. It is very sad when this happens, because both lost the possibility and the rarity, of having something and someone wonderful and beneficial in their lives that would have truly loved and cared for them.
I think if your friend and her guy are in love with each other seriously; they should work to develop the relationship. If we can feel that our treasure in life is the other person in our life; our heart and love will be there also.

[statajack]

I am convinced that there are two things in life that are completely unrelated; Love and Money. I believe that there is a difference between feeling love for someone and being in love with them.
Think of all the monumentous and astounding things in History that were constructed because of the love and passion within a person that gave them the willpower, ambition and dedication to achieve such tasks. Think of the heroines and hero’s, that because of the love of humanity of people or animals, lost their lives trying to save someone or make some change for some person, cause or even for society.

Personally, love must be the foundation upon which all other things in life and with regard to building a relationship or marriage should be constructed upon. A strong foundation will make a strong house and a strong love between two people will help them continue loving each other and help them stay together if everything else in life fails and falls to pieces.

One of the biggest problems we have as a society is the tendency and practice to kill what is good for ourselves. To say that; an older person desiring to develop a relationship or a marriage with someone much younger is due to perverted lust; has some validity in some cases. However, in many cases though, the older person really and truly wants to devote their love to the younger person and sees them as an equal. In those cases and a majority of the time, sincere love is lost because of fear, stigma, or group norms. It is very sad when this happens, because both lost the possibility and the rarity, of having something and someone wonderful and beneficial in their lives that would have truly loved and cared for them.
I think if your friend and her guy are in love with each other seriously; they should work to develop the relationship. If we can feel that our treasure in life is the other person in our life; our heart and love will be there also.

Shadovski - you're sounding a bit like a newspaper agony aunt. :becky:

But I'm impressed again that you haven't mentioned god once!

Keep up the good work!

[rainy-day]

if you ask me, she likes him too much. toooooo much. I think from what she told me that he is the guy she could fall in love with. and this is the dangerous thing.

because I care about her and I don't know the motifes he is dating her. maybe he is attracted to her because of her maturity and because he is thinking on everything he can learn from her, sexually first of all.....

I don't know what to think. I don't think age must be a major fact or a very important one as long as there is something between the people involved..... but I'm worried about her. he could find any time someone younger and nice...I knew the guy, tonight, and he is really attractive.......

we went out, all together and they could not stay apart of each other. kissing all the time, hugging all the time... she says she doesn't care how old he is, that it doesn't matter

I don't know if I should oppose that........ should I? not really opposing, but trying to make her watching this from another side....
on the other hand, I don't remember seeing her so happy with someone. she had many bad relationships before......

[Shadow-off]

Maybe like you may feel about this; she may end up getting hurt in the end. I sense this somehow from your story.

[rainy-day]

Maybe like you may feel about this; she may end up getting hurt in the end. I sense this somehow from your story.

shadow, I liked what I've seen today. maybe I worry too much and maybe I'm a bit jealous. I must admit. I would be flattered if someone 8 years younger would want to date me.......

[Shadow-off]

No, I think it would be their loss if they didn't desire to in your case.

[Sniffer]

I have a question for women. recently, a friend of mine met a guy, 8 years younger than her and she started dating him. she says he is very nice and funny and is not childish at all. he is supporting himself, he is paying his university by himself, he is working. so pretty mature she says.

the strange thing is that she never dated younger men before, only older men, and she is still dating him even she says she knows there is no future in that relationship. she is 31 and he is 23.

i'm wondering, even is not accepted by society as easy as younger woman older man combination would you girls date a younger man? why. what do you think about my crazy friend?

Listen your heart, not what it should be "acceptable or not" by the society.
Your friend met several times older men. She never stay with them.
TOday she feel good with a younger. So What's the problem? She should break hapiness because of a question of age?
You can try to conform your behaviour to what are the "usual rules" of society. But you can not lie to yourself (and that's what she's doing when she says "there is no future in that relationship")