soul mates

[rainy-day]

we like to say when we fall in love that we've met our soul mate. but is this mate real or is just a fantasy made by love stories writers or movie makers?

[Voobrazheniye]

we like to say when we fall in love that we've met our soul mate. but is this mate real or is just a fantasy made by love stories writers or movie makers?

Alex, soul mates are real; they are not just a fantasy... in my humble opinion, of course.

But first you have to believe in souls, and not everyone agrees that there are such things.

I am certain that we are all spiritual beings having an earthly experience, so at the essence of each of us is a soul. I believe that we are all interconnected at a spiritual level. We connect more deeply with some souls than with others. In our lives we are moved to find those special souls with whom we can connect with the closest, souls we have known even before this life.

My personal feeling is that we may not have just one possible soul mate in all the world, but that there are only a very small number of possibilities... perhaps only two or three in a lifetime. Eventually, however, I think we do get to the point where for each of us there is just one other half, and maybe when we do finally connect with that soul on this plane of existence, we both are done and do not need to return.

Along the way, however, I think we can be fooled - or fool ourselves - into thinking we have found such a person, when perhaps we really have not. But when you find a real soul mate type of relationship, it truly is like nothing else. There really is a difference.

But, even these don't always work out in the long run. Sometimes timing gets in the way, or the other person might already be committed (like married) to someone else.

I wrote a semihumorous article about this once, about 10 years ago. If you'd like, I can email it to you (I still have your address).

[snow_flake]

we like to say when we fall in love that we've met our soul mate. but is this mate real or is just a fantasy made by love stories writers or movie makers?

Maybe we partly meet our fantasy?:)

[1amongmany]

and for a third opinion: nope

if you believe in something hard enough you will find it but to be realistic you might only find someone that makes you feel wonderful...you can call it what you want but the term soul mate is basically a superlative...

"But, even these don't always work out in the long run. Sometimes timing gets in the way, or the other person might already be committed (like married) to someone else. "

so how can one be a soul mate if they are together with your soul? I got to raise my BS card here

[vitashenka]

It is real as far as we think so :becky:

[Voobrazheniye]

and for a third opinion: nope

if you believe in something hard enough you will find it but to be realistic you might only find someone that makes you feel wonderful...you can call it what you want but the term soul mate is basically a superlative...

"But, even these don't always work out in the long run. Sometimes timing gets in the way, or the other person might already be committed (like married) to someone else. "

so how can one be a soul mate if they are together with your soul? I got to raise my BS card here

It's simple... when we come to Earth, we have a tendency to become really stupid. Two souls may recognize each other, but on this plane of existence, they are encumbered by body and mind, and mind especially works against soul. Just because two people are kindred spirits, it does not mean that there will necessarily be a wonderfully clear path for them.

Life here is also about facing challenges, experiencing difficulties, going through a wide range of emotions aside from just wonderful love. Sometimes the right two souls meet at the wrong time, or thay may have other challenges such as being of different races, nationalities, having a big age difference, or maybe one of them having a serious disability. It may be that in this life you are not meant to be together with that soul mate, and that you're meant to experience a different feeling, learn a different lesson.

If you don't believe in souls, then it's BS to you. Perhaps that's been your experience, and perhaps there will be another experience that might give you a different view. My own experience tells me that souls mates are very, very real... but that it's not always as simple as finding each other and living happily every after. Our human frailities, doubts, and the influences of others can cause us to miss our chances.

Mine is a long and complex story - but in another year or two, you might be able to buy it at your local book store. ;)

[Voobrazheniye]

It is real as far as we think so :becky:

Don't stop believing. :)

[Lucky]

Paul, nice wrote and i totaly agree with u... i believe in soul... and i know we are here to laern some lessons... i cant say things so nice as u do... its difficult in a foreighn language... but i agree with u... sometimes its long way...
and u know... i begin to think what if there two souls have met... but they wasnt ready... or one of them wasnt... was it wrong time for them... was it challange for their belief... or maybe they havent found themselves yet or one of them havent found her/him self....
can it be on this earth they just supposed to learn some lessons to find each other in other life...

[Lucky]

Mine is a long and complex story - but in another year or two, you might be able to buy it at your local book store. ;)


mine isnt less complex, Paul... and u know i also had thought about writing a book... it could be bestceller... and who knows... maybe one day we will meet each other and give our sings already as famous writers :rolleyes:

[Lucky]

mine isnt less complex, Paul... and u know i also had thought about writing a book... it could be bestceller... and who knows... maybe one day we will meet each other and give our signatures to each other already as famous writers :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

[statajack]

The "soul" - is a word derived from religious beliefs, and generally more associated with the afterlife in that respect. It is disturbing to think that our appreciation of somebody is something only achievable at its maximum when we are ordinarily dead.

However, past masters of philosophy like Plato, Socrates, Aristotle referred to the soul as the core essence of a being. This gives it a chance to be something that exists whilst we are still alive. This is probably how some tabloid agony-aunt at some point intended to use the word and created "soul mate", as a kind of dreamy notion of the deepest love and strongest possible relationship between humans. It certainly sounds effective, and in this context, is generally the ultimate goal lovers or potential lovers are seeking.

To be honest, I wouldn't know what a "soul mate" looks like, sounds like, or acts like. Would I want to spend every minute with a soul mate, or live in "normal" every-day unison with our required compromises and mortal frailties, and then go for the really big feeling when we are dead?

Bearing in mind I don't believe in afterlife, I am more than just a little confused as to what a soul mate is. Sorry guys !! :cool:

[brown-raider]

I think because a relationship is work and there's a lot of give and take that soul mates is a little heavy for me.... comprimise mate yes, if you are willing anfd find someone who is willing to equally compromise that you are lucky..:yo:

[zoroooo]

some are talking about soul mate but the explain and explain and It ended to be a "clone"

I would not like to live with the clone of me.;)

zorozoro

[rainy-day]

i don't believe in soul mates as the movies present them. to have a soul mate would mean that there is just one person on that planet which can fit perfectly on you.

sad isn't it? what if that person is somewhere in iceland, on the other corner of the planet or even dead? if there would be just one soul mate, this one has to be born in the same decade as we are, to have a different sex and so many other things.

i think there are souls compatible with our, and people who share the same interests as we do and people who just make us feel unique, desired and the most important.

so this soul mate thing is just an invention to make people remain single (because they wait only for the perfect one) and ending go to prostitues :D (just kidding with my last sentence :p)

[Voobrazheniye]

and u know... i begin to think what if there two souls have met... but they wasnt ready... or one of them wasnt... was it wrong time for them... was it challange for their belief... or maybe they havent found themselves yet or one of them havent found her/him self....
can it be on this earth they just supposed to learn some lessons to find each other in other life...

Yes... exactly. And I have been in just that situation.

[Voobrazheniye]

mine isnt less complex, Paul... and u know i also had thought about writing a book... it could be bestceller... and who knows... maybe one day we will meet each other and give our signatures to each other already as famous writers :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:


We can start our own literary society. ;)

[zoroooo]

""so this soul mate thing is just an invention to make people remain single (because they wait only for the perfect one) and ending go to prostitues (just kidding with my last sentence )""

Yes there is a big sting going on... keenan and browny are organizing that so we men are defenitly going to buy sexslaves.


zorozoro

[Voobrazheniye]

Bearing in mind I don't believe in afterlife, I am more than just a little confused as to what a soul mate is. Sorry guys !! :cool:

Stata... nicely said, really. You have a different view of the whole thing, and you have to look for your answers from a different perspective. That is totally cool.

One of the nicest things about relating our thoughts and opinions in a friendly manner in a message forum (as opposed to the political threads), is that we can share our differing viewpoints on something very personal, such as what "love" really is all about, with respect and without having to scream that the other person is wrong, stupid, full of BS, or a "septic."

Personally, I do believe in an afterlife and in having multiple "life" experiences in the material world. You have a different view, a fundamentalist Christian would have another idea, a complete athiest would think something else, and so it goes. Each of us finds the answers to life's questions in a manner that makes the most sense to that individual.

The catch is that none of us really KNOWS who is right or wrong. Perhaps only one stream of thought is actually correct and the others are all wet. Or maybe many are just equally valid variations of "the truth." But we don't know for certain. All of us just make our opinions based on the things in which we have faith, whether that is organized religion, another form or spiritualism, pure science, nor nothing at all.

So, as I express my belief in the soul and in soul mates, it is based on what I believe, which is not Christian, but certainly does entail a belief in a "higher power," "universal energy," or, if you prefer, God. It works for me, and I can best relate with others who hold a similar view.

But I truly do respect the beliefs of others when it comes to matters of spirit, life essence, or whatever you want to call it. All of us need to find the answers to life's questions in the manner that is best suited to each of us. And while we should have strength in our respective faiths, it never really makes us better in our own beliefs to demean the beliefs of others.

[1amongmany]

i don't believe in soul mates as the movies present them. to have a soul mate would mean that there is just one person on that planet which can fit perfectly on you.

sad isn't it? what if that person is somewhere in iceland, on the other corner of the planet or even dead? if there would be just one soul mate, this one has to be born in the same decade as we are, to have a different sex and so many other things.

i think there are souls compatible with our, and people who share the same interests as we do and people who just make us feel unique, desired and the most important.

so this soul mate thing is just an invention to make people remain single (because they wait only for the perfect one) and ending go to prostitues :D (just kidding with my last sentence :p)

I agree....but do we have to use the word "soul"? can't we use the word personality or character instead?

[rainy-day]

I agree....but do we have to use the word "soul"? can't we use the word personality or character instead?

i use this word because it describe the "belief" people have. "soul mates" is already a concept.

[rainy-day]

""so this soul mate thing is just an invention to make people remain single (because they wait only for the perfect one) and ending go to prostitues (just kidding with my last sentence )""

Yes there is a big sting going on... keenan and browny are organizing that so we men are defenitly going to buy sexslaves.


zorozoro


from where? :becky::becky:

i've heard there are many women on venus

[Gabbibo]

Paul, we think that the soul mate is real but many times we are wrong
this is why Alex said: is a fantasy

many years we can live with someone, we think that our second part is our soulmate
and in one day, this "soul mate" makes our soul sour:(

but in reality we lived with our fantasy

[Sveta's Hero]

When does a soul mate become a stale mate?

[bobbyd]

I would like to think that I will meet my soul mate but how will I recognize her?

When I was younger I thought a specific g/f was my soul mate...guess what? She was not.

When I married my ex-wife I thought she was my soul mate...guess what? She was not.

What are the odds that I will meet my soul mate in my demographic or here? Maybe it would be better to settle with a nice lady who will be my best friend and lover instead of searching for the impossible.

[fbibob]

I would like to think that I will meet my soul mate but how will I recognize her?

She will be the one willing to stand down wind from you.










(sorry, brother, that line just had to come out.

[bobbyd]

She will be the one willing to stand down wind from you.










(sorry, brother, that line just had to come out.

of course you know brother...I will get you back for that.:painkiller:

[fbibob]

of course you know brother...I will get you back for that.:painkiller:

I never had any doubt.

[colomoda]

we like to say when we fall in love that we've met our soul mate. but is this mate real or is just a fantasy made by love stories writers or movie makers?


You got the idea from FACEBOOK :becky::p