Neilikka
09-20-2008, 08:43 PM
A couple may run into the question of infidelity, their worldviews may collide,and the passion between them may disappear. They will also be forced to solve other various "not enoughs" between themselves. I already wrote on some of the just-listed subjects. It's time to cover much more down-to-earth topics, which is quite difficult to identify as a problem that needs to be solved. I'm not even sure if men think it's a problem, but some women in some cases perceive it as a global disaster. Pornography is what I'm talking about.
Pornography appeared almost at the same time as man. The practice of mediating sex is as natural as doing it. Ima¬gination and curiosity of the human species led to everything connected with art including pornography (or erotic) elements in it. As the human body is the main object of almost any artistic style, this tendency could only progress over the years and centuries.
Over the past years, an immense industry for the production and consumption of pornography has grown, due to emergence of the VCR , the DVD , and the Internet , as well as the emergence of social attitudes more tolerant of sexual portrayals.
"In my opinion porn is similar to drugs. A healthy person may seldom use it as a sort of medical prevention, but there are some people who may need it," said my colleague about it. And then he delved into details about his almost philosophic position about xxx movies, and how this may affect those who become addicted to porn.
"I wrote an article on how porn positively affects people in Europe. The level of violence is quite low in Netherlands where almost everything, including porn, is legal," commented another colleague. She failed to react with the same level of detached objectivity when I asked what would be her reaction if she discovered her boyfriend watching porn.
Pornography seems inevitable and watching porn may be considered normal to some extent. The question is where is the balance between the healthy need for porn everybody's talking about and that feeling of abhorrence that some may experience when confronted by it?
My friend Helen, a girl with strong social and sexual ambitions, found her husband sitting in front of the computer at 3 a.m., "looking for some rare car parts." The next day Helen looked through the history of visiting websites (yes, there is such an option in a computer and yes, women are curious and suspicious creatures). What she saw was "mega porno," "hot girls," "three students lost in the forest" and something else that had nothing in common with cars. Helen's illusions about their marriage were ruined. Although she used to have that "normal" attitude to pornography most of people have, as soon as xxx materialized in her flat, she stopped thinking of it as of something innocent.
Helen's first thought was that she stopped being sexually attractive to her husband, which earlier would have seemed unbelievable since her husband had always been literally crazy about her body. Then she thought that those porn sites were the first step to getting a divorce as she started imagining her husband watching porn and the word "porn" changed its meaning for Helen from "some people f***ing each other in different ways" to "BEAUTIFUL NAKED GIRLS making love with men." At the end of this brain work, Helen came to the idea that her husband somehow was unfaithful to her through pornography. He had almost become a traitor in her mind.
Though 31 roses partly cured Helen's bitter disaffection, I would advise men to show more discretion with their pornographic hobbies. We know you watch it. It may surprise you, but women also sometimes watch it. And if it makes sense to close the bathroom door, then there also should be sense in getting sexual inspiration apart from your partner.
By Anna Ozar
Pornography appeared almost at the same time as man. The practice of mediating sex is as natural as doing it. Ima¬gination and curiosity of the human species led to everything connected with art including pornography (or erotic) elements in it. As the human body is the main object of almost any artistic style, this tendency could only progress over the years and centuries.
Over the past years, an immense industry for the production and consumption of pornography has grown, due to emergence of the VCR , the DVD , and the Internet , as well as the emergence of social attitudes more tolerant of sexual portrayals.
"In my opinion porn is similar to drugs. A healthy person may seldom use it as a sort of medical prevention, but there are some people who may need it," said my colleague about it. And then he delved into details about his almost philosophic position about xxx movies, and how this may affect those who become addicted to porn.
"I wrote an article on how porn positively affects people in Europe. The level of violence is quite low in Netherlands where almost everything, including porn, is legal," commented another colleague. She failed to react with the same level of detached objectivity when I asked what would be her reaction if she discovered her boyfriend watching porn.
Pornography seems inevitable and watching porn may be considered normal to some extent. The question is where is the balance between the healthy need for porn everybody's talking about and that feeling of abhorrence that some may experience when confronted by it?
My friend Helen, a girl with strong social and sexual ambitions, found her husband sitting in front of the computer at 3 a.m., "looking for some rare car parts." The next day Helen looked through the history of visiting websites (yes, there is such an option in a computer and yes, women are curious and suspicious creatures). What she saw was "mega porno," "hot girls," "three students lost in the forest" and something else that had nothing in common with cars. Helen's illusions about their marriage were ruined. Although she used to have that "normal" attitude to pornography most of people have, as soon as xxx materialized in her flat, she stopped thinking of it as of something innocent.
Helen's first thought was that she stopped being sexually attractive to her husband, which earlier would have seemed unbelievable since her husband had always been literally crazy about her body. Then she thought that those porn sites were the first step to getting a divorce as she started imagining her husband watching porn and the word "porn" changed its meaning for Helen from "some people f***ing each other in different ways" to "BEAUTIFUL NAKED GIRLS making love with men." At the end of this brain work, Helen came to the idea that her husband somehow was unfaithful to her through pornography. He had almost become a traitor in her mind.
Though 31 roses partly cured Helen's bitter disaffection, I would advise men to show more discretion with their pornographic hobbies. We know you watch it. It may surprise you, but women also sometimes watch it. And if it makes sense to close the bathroom door, then there also should be sense in getting sexual inspiration apart from your partner.
By Anna Ozar