One thing

[belano4ka]

Dear all,

I have a question, :) what kind of feature do two people need to have in common for a relationship?

I realise that it's not only one aspect;however, I would love to hear your opinion

PS.elane-ellie,dear,please be modest:yield:

[krevedko]

Physical disability: one of them has to be blind, and the other one - deaf. :becky:

[belano4ka]

I agree with Antoine de Saint-Exupery that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.
I am really happy that I found that person.

[belano4ka]

Physical disability: one of them has to be blind, and the other one - deaf. :becky:

I think I am the blind one :becky:

[Crushik]

I agree with Antoine de Saint-Exupery that love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.


I*d wanna to add to this Exupery*s phrase: in thinking in the same direction either:rolleyes:

[belano4ka]

Crushik,indeed.

If you do not have the some common interests, your relationship more likely to fail. If you like one thing and he/she likes another, you are off to a bad start. Although, , opposites attract each other in the beginning. It generally never lasts and each goes their separate ways.

People still need a common ground in something for the relationship to work out.

[bucksbunny]

Crushik,indeed.

If you do not have the some common interests, your relationship more likely to fail. If you like one thing and he/she likes another, you are off to a bad start. Although, , opposites attract each other in the beginning. It generally never lasts and each goes their separate ways.

People still need a common ground in something for the relationship to work out.

I am never gonna look for my clone...I dont need even to many comon things to start exploring your partner and with your partner can be exciting.

zorozoro

[belano4ka]

I am never gonna look for my clone...I dont need even to many comon things to start exploring your partner and with your partner can be exciting.

zorozoro

zorozoro,thank you for your valuable opinion. I agree, I would never will be able to be with the person with exact the same personality as mine-- we will probably kill each other :) <from own experience>

[Hoopy]

She better support Celtic :becky:

[belano4ka]

She better support Celtic :becky:

What if her favourite is blue?:becky:

[Hoopy]

Then she won't be my favourite :neener:
and she must be bonkers if she does :p

[Shadow-off]

Most people have an ideal image of what they want their life to be; most think it is realistic too. That's ok but when someone else is involved it generally becomes unrealistic. Can you imagine the odds of two having the same image of what they image their life to be like ?

I think the key is to stick with the basics; Do we love each other, are we attracted to each other enough, will we be happy with this other person long term and will we be able to uphold our end of being married without breaking it ?

After determining this positively; simply work together to support each others diffferent aspirations of life. I may not ever like or want to become what you aspire to be professionally or socially; but because I love the person I am with helping and supporting them in reaching those aspirations will make me happy because I know helping them achieve these goals and desires will make them happy. That's what I want for them because I love them.

I will like growing many small trees and plants by a small lake in the country. If my small trees and plants will help you pay for and reach your goals in life is it something bad even if you don't like my occupation ?

[bobbyd]

If there was only one thing to look for we would all be paired off and compatability tests would be nonsensical.

[Shadow-off]

Bobby I wouldn't depend on compatibility tests; they are made by people that place speculation in print and are really unreliable.

[alenika]

I would say "care", mutual care. Which for me means not just care like to everyone, but ability to feel with your partner. His pain - your pain, his joy - your joy. And the same from his side.

[sunontheway]

I have a question, :) what kind of feature do two people need to have in common for a relationship?


I think a level of education is quite meaningful.

[belano4ka]

alenika, ontheway, thank you.

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In my opinion we don't have to tend to change our partner. We may try to learn from our mistakes and act a little bit differently in some situations, but we can’t become someone we are not. You have to love the other person the way he/she is. Never lower your partner’s self-esteem by making comparisons with other people.

[sunontheway]

You have to love the other person the way he/she is.

I would say - we actually love him/her because the way he/she is and not backward :)

[Hoopy]

I would say - we actually love him/her because the way he/she is and not backward :)
you couldn't love someone that was backward? :p

[sunontheway]

you couldn't love someone that was backward? :p

No. Don't mix a cause and consequence :)

[brown-raider]

both think family is important!!!!! both want children or neither one wants children!!!!! both important factors as well as others for a sucessfull relationship...